Divorce.....
MY BFF called me last night and told me that her husband left her again. the second time this year. THey have a 7 month old son. They just signed another six month lease on their apartment. But my friend can't afford it by herself.
So if anybody knows of any help that could help her please let me know. I'm suprising her with pedicure and lunch on Saturday.
Please help me....
so sorry for your friend..
I had a husband who left me.. devastating. We didn't have kids, though. I can only imagine how your friend must be feeling with having the additional responsibility of taking care of a little one on top of the incredibly awful emotions of divorce. You are being a wonderful friend by spending time with her and caring about what she's going through. I would call a friend at 6:00am sometimes, which I knew was early, but I thought I was going to lose my mind trying to re-hash went went wrong or why he felt someone else (that was the case in our situation) was more interesting than me. I went back to church and just surrounded myself with good friends. I went to therapy weekly and began to "find myself" again after losing my joy while being in a joyless marriage. I discovered things about myself.. my part in the disintegration of the marriage. That was an eye opener! We were married almost 7 yrs. I'm now re-married VERY happily and have 2 kids.
If her husband's name is on the lease too, then he should have to help pay for the cost of the rent for another 6 months. She should get a lawyer soon. Even if divorce proceedings aren't happening at this point, he should be held LIABLE for part of the cost of the rent, financial care for the baby, etc. Keep wrapping your arms around her, be there for her, listen even if you've heard her repeat the same thing over 10x.. offer to watch her baby so she can go to have some "down time." Do you attend church or does she? If she doesn't and you do, invite her to a church service. Also I'm thinking that Samaritan Centers offer reduced rates for counseling?? I just looked in the phone book and there is one in Niles, one in Elkhart and one in South Bend.
Hugs for your friend
Patty
Another option....
Patty is right. If his name is on the lease too then he should be held liable for at least his half of the rent. Another option for her would be to talk to her landlord or the owners of the apartment complex. Sometimes people are a little more forgiving than we think. My dad is currently going through a divorce and couldn't afford his house payment and apartment rent (she kicked him out of his house) so he called up the bank, let them know the situation and was able to work something out so that he could still afford to get an apartment. I know it would be hard for her to explain her situation I am sure, but maybe she could talk to them and just let them know she just can't afford it on her own and maybe they would waive any cancellation fees for terminating the lease early, that is if she has somewhere else she can stay. Hope that helps. The best thing you can really do is just be there for her and help keep her spirits up!
Her husband owns his own
Her husband owns his own business so he doesn't have a regular income. So she will have a heck of time establshling child support bc he doesn't have regular income coming in. I guess one year he made negative 6,000.
He had one of his friends call her work and say that she broke a hepa law so she could lose her job or be suspended (spelling).
I try and make sure i call her at least once a day if not more.
That is just plain mean! I
That is just plain mean! I hope she doesn't lose her job over that. I think she is going to have a heck of time with this divorce. Just keep calling her and making sure she's okay. :)