Discipline/Behavior plan
So now that we have again revisited our house rules and updated our current positive reward system for discipline/behavior, I am wondering what you all do to help calm the storm and keep the peace in the house.
What do you use, if anything? What has worked or totally backfired? Any specific strategies that are definite prize winners?
I have found this only works
I have found this only works once-in-a-while, but we let them all go at it. We stepback and let them shout or fight or wrestle to the death. It occasionally works but also backfires. We usually do the logic approach... did you annoy him? that is why he through your barbie outside...Lynn
Commuinity Service/Maid Service
I got this system from the book, "Transforming the Difficult Child". When our boys break a rule, fight with each other, and such, we assign the kids what we call community service. It is basically,they have to do something for another person, our family, or someone in the community. Ex. If one son hits the other, than they have to do something for the injured party to make ammends. It takes saying sorry one step further. If I have to spend thirty minutes agruing with them to get ready for bed, then they have to do jobs around the house for me (since I would have been doing those jobs if I wasn't fighting with them). If I have to pick up after them, I charge them maid service. They have to do some of my work around the house. I get lots of towels folded, dishwashers emptied, and floors cleaned this way. They also can not have any special priveleges like TV, friends over, video games until the service is complete. I don't push them to do it, but remind them what they have to do before they can do any privileges. Lastly, they have now taken to helping neighbors rake leaves, bringing them their papers, and helping their grandparents.
Sue